What is Funeral?
Losing a loved one can be an immensely chaotic and a very devastating phase. Although coping with the loss can be toilsome and takes place in its own pace, it is essential for oneself to remember that this cannot happen overnight and being patient is essential. In spite of the fact that death is inevitable, it is still one of the hardest things to come to terms with. But, death is bound to happen and no matter how much denial we exert, life must continue and we should remember to be obliged for the time we spent with our dear ones and should appreciate that they are in a better place.
Whenever death takes place, a funeral is arranged so that the soul may rest in peace, and reach to their afterlife or heaven according to certain religious beliefs. A funeral is a decorum associated with the burial, cremation, or other customs, with a gathering. The funeral proceedings comprise of mourning the deceased, celebrating their existence, readings, and sermon, personal readings, prayers, reflection, and contributing support and sympathy to the grieving family, and, various other customs undertaken to pay homage to the deceased, and finally, bidding farewell.
How to Plan a Funeral?
Planning a funeral for a loved one can be very stressful because it is a big event and you only have a few days in your hand before the burial to take place, and at this moment you seldom are in your right mind to plan everything on your own.
When arranging a funeral, you need all the help you can possibly get, from your family and friends. Apart from that, we are always here to guide you throughout the process.
Find a funeral supervisor
Funeral supervisor or director is usually a licensed embalmer, who carries out the funeral rites or arranges funerals. If you have never hired a funeral director before it is difficult to know what you are looking for. The funeral director handles all the proceedings associated with the funeral ceremony. His services are inclusive of, providing counsel and empathy to the families and friends of the deceased, to impart information on funeral service options, to plan for the removal of the deceased’s body, to classify death certificates and other legal documents with appropriate authorities, and so on. But, be sure to juxtapose services and prices. Then, decamp your dear one’s body to a funeral home.
Viewing of the deceased
Select, buy and arrange the delivery of the coffin, casket, urn or shroud of your preference. Decide whether you want to keep the casket or coffin open or closed for the viewing. Invite the family and friends for saying the final farewell after the embalmment of the body and preparations in the funeral home have taken place.
Appointing a Priest, Minister or Celebrant for Funeral
Decide whether you want to appoint a priest, a minister or a celebrant to carry out the proceedings of the funeral ceremony and read the bible and deliver speeches.
Outline the ceremony
Decide everything about the day of the funeral in advance, like the kind of services you want, while bearing in mind the cost of the packages you pick.
At first, decide the place where the rites will take place, at a place of worship or any other place.
Then decide the seating of the guests in the ceremony. The first two rows are conventionally reserved for family members and close friends. Others guests are seated behind them.
Contact the caterers for after funeral refreshments. Or you can request family and friends to bring provisions for the wake.
Subsequently, decide your choice of music, kind of flower decorations, the order of services, and so on.
List of Funeral Songs
- Goodbye My Friend by Linda Ronstadt
- Gone Too Soon by Michael Jackson
- Dancing with the Angels by Monk & Neagle
- Heaven was needing a Hero by Jo Dee Messina
- Fly by Celine Dion
Book the dates and inform the guests
After you’ve designed the funeral service of your choice, book a date after consulting your funeral director. Once you’re done with that, print and circulate the invitation cards for the guests. Be certain of mentioning the venue and the date of the day of the funeral ceremony.
Arrange transport for Funeral
Customarily Funeral Directors arrange for the transportation of your loved one, and they can also make provisions for transporting family and friends. If they are not organized by the funeral supervisor, the family members and relatives may have to use their own mode of transport.
Decide on pallbearers
Typically, six pallbearers are chosen to carry the coffin of the deceased. Pallbearers are appointed among family members and close friends who share the deepest bond with the deceased.
The day of the Funeral
Around this time, all the affairs related to the funeral rites should be dealt with like allotting time for people to speak about the deceased person and delivering a eulogy and granting some time in silence for the deceased soul to rest in peace then you finally have the time to grieve for the loss. All the feelings of the initial shock may return so be ready for that too. Having everyone gathered for the ceremony in one place can be a graceful reminder of what a beautiful soul your loved one was.
GOING TO A FUNERAL
Loss of a family member, a friend, a relative, a distant relative, an infant, can be immensely disheartening. But, we attend the funeral of a deceased person to give out our condolences, to give all the support in any way we can possibly provide to the family. There is certain etiquette associated with attending a funeral. If you’re attending a funeral for the first time, or even if you’ve attended funerals before, a certain code of behavior has to be maintained.
What to wear on Funeral?
The dress code at a funeral has to be formal. It’s not a place or the time to be fashionable. Therefore, men should wear dark suits and a tie and women should wear dark pantsuit or skirts/dresses.
Arriving at a funeral service
It’s good etiquette to arrive early than the appointed time to offer your condolences personally to the family of the deceased. It’s okay to get emotional and it’s expected of you too, so don’t be hesitant in expressing your grief.
Where to seat in Funeral ceremony?
Generally, the first two rows are reserved for the family members and close friends and relatives. If you’re not a close friend or family, sit in the middle or in the back rows at the venue.
Code of decorum
A certain code of decorum or etiquette has to be maintained throughout the ceremony out of respect to the deceased. You should not chat around with everybody, rather be silent. Strictly turn off your mobile phones unless you have an emergency. Don’t click pictures, it is considered very disrespectful. Laughing or joking around is uncompromising and shows signs of immaturity. A funeral is a serious gathering and therefore relevant behavior is expected.
Delivering Funeral Flowers
The kind of flowers you choose to deliver can express particular sentiments. The gift of sympathy plants or flowers is a typical and an ideal choice for expressing how sorry you feel for the loss of a person.
There are certain types of funeral flowers, each one depicting a separate meaning.
- Lilies: depict purity of the departed soul
- Gladiolus: manifest the strength and morality of the deceased
- Carnations: impart remembrance and pure love for the departed
- Chrysanthemums: express lamentation and grief for the loss
- Roses: bestow love and respect for the dearest
- Orchid Plant: render sympathy for the loss
- Hydrangea Plant: exhibits heartfelt sincerity of the loved one
- Daffodils and Tulips: spare forgiveness and royalty to the deceased
The flowers have typically corresponded with funeral services as they symbolize the innocence that has been fortified to the soul of the departed. They manifest majesty, purity, love, and sympathy. The color of the sympathy flowers is of great importance because you may not want to convey the wrong message.
Offering condolences in a funeral
The decorum of funeral ceremony encompasses of expressing empathy and solace towards the loss. And, providing with all the support and sympathy to the family they possibly can.
This includes writing sympathy letters, memory poems, funeral songs.
Sympathy Quotes for loss of a closed one, father and mother.
“ Those we love never truly leave us. There are things that death cannot possibly touch”
“Tragically enough, the most sorrowful farewell is the one that is left unsaid.”
“On the death of a friend, we should consider that the fates through confidence have devolved on us the task of a double living, that we have to henceforth fulfill the promise of our friend’s life also, in our own, to the world.”
“The greatest power of death is not that it can make people die, but that it can make the people you left behind want to stop living”
“I still loved my mother. It flowed out of my chest. With mother gone, where would my love go?”
“When my father died, all artefacts soft and beautiful and beaming would be gone with him.
Funeral Eulogy Letters
A eulogy is fundamentally a speech given at a memorial or funeral service. Typically, it is conveyed by a family member, a close friend or a priest and it acknowledges and celebrates the life of the deceased.
Writing a eulogy can seem like a complex task but we can break it down for you.
- They can be conveyed in a formal way which covers the person’s history, career, and procurements.
- Whereas, informal condolence letters can be carried out through sharing stories, memories, and poems.
- Or, they can be a blend of both.
A Eulogy from a mother for her child.
“The moon of my life, my darling Sidney. I cannot believe God has taken my child away from me. I still remember those beautiful big brown eyes when she was born, and she had a head full of hairs. She has been taken away from us after only 4 years on this earth. From the time she was born, she brought joy to our lives and was the source of happiness.”
“When my child died, I lost a part of me, my whole world ceased to exist and I feel nothing but a shell of the person I once was. At this point, you feel every emotion, everything you could possibly expect to feel, feelings so well documented by so many others, expect to say that everything that’s written about mourning is all the same because there is no real deviation from the text. Sometimes you feel more of one particular thing and less of another, and sometimes you feel them out of context, and sometimes you feel them for a longer period or a shorter period. But the sensations are always unchanging.”
It is with so much sadness that we are all here today to bid farewell to our only child, Sidney. She may be taken away from her but her memories continue to live on in our hearts. I am so proud of her and I very well realize that she is in peace. Farewell, my precious girl.
Funeral Farewell The Last Memory
At the end of the Funeral ceremony or a memorial, bid your farewell to the deceased and the family of the deceased too at the gravesite. If after funeral refreshments are arranged, follow through it and show your support for the grieving family by letting them know you attended the service.